Copyright Staten Island Advance
Dear Abby: After my father died by suicide, my mother moved the family across the country. I was 13, and I never discussed my father’s death with anyone. Now, 50 years later, my best friend from high school has terminated our friendship because I don’t support her politics. Her parting comment to me: “I was only nice to you because your mom told me how your dad died.” Abby, I had plenty of friends in high school. I was senior class president, and I have gone on to have a successful life. I was always there for my friend when she had marital and other difficulties. I am struggling with processing such profound cruelty from a lifelong friend, and I would welcome your guidance. —Grappling in San Francisco Dear Grappling: The statement from your “lifelong friend” was mean, cruel, and unnecessary. It was intended to hurt you. I don’t know if you realize what a strong woman you are. Although your family experienced a severe trauma that necessitated geographic relocation, you managed to thrive in your new environment. You were popular with peers and have gone on to build a successful life. Count your blessings. The person you describe may have been a friend at one time, but she has used the current political climate as an excuse to distance herself. Step back and be glad she showed her true colors. You are well rid of her. —Love, Abby Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. What teens need to know about sex, drugs, AIDS, and getting along with peers and parents is in “What Every Teen Should Know.” Send your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $8 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby, Teen Booklet, P.O. Box 446, Kings Mills, OH 45034-0446. (Shipping and handling are included in the price.)
