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If you have a problem that needs solving and you don't know where to turn, look no further. Every day, the Daily Star's very own agony aunt Jane O'Gorman is on hand to tackle your issues and concerns with some straight-talking but sound advice. From bedroom confessions to self-confidence issues , drug use and everything else, Jane has helped thousands of Daily Star readers over the years and isn't slowing down. If you want help, you can write to Just Jane, Daily Star, One Canada Square, London, E145AP or email jane.ogorman@reachplc.com. Please note that Jane cannot respond to individual letters and not all problems will be published. I’m too ashamed to have sex with my wife. Everyone jokes that I’m punching way above my weight – but they’re right. She is a stunner. She joined a gym in February and now looks amazing. I can’t stop drinking or lose weight no matter how hard I try. My body is still as flabby and unattractive as ever. While she’s treating herself to figure-hugging active wear, I’m still slobbing around in baggy tracksuits. I hate myself and my lack of will power. I’m sleeping in the spare room because I’m determined not to let her see me naked. What can I say when she accuses me of neglecting her? JANE SAYS: Could you and your girl enjoy walks or swims together? The fact is that a buzzing, (possibly) intimidating health club isn’t for everyone. Your girl clearly loves her gym sessions, but you need to find a regular form of exercise that you feel comfortable with. Level with her. Explain that you’re struggling and ask her to support you in adopting a better diet and healthier lifestyle. She must know that you’re not rejecting her in bed, because I strongly suspect she’s currently feeling confused and unloved She’s working so hard, yet can’t fathom why you’re not more pleased – or event turned on. Be honest about your drinking too. If you can’t give up or cope on your own, then make speaking to your GP a priority. I’m sick to death of a friend who thinks it’s funny to insult me in public. From sly digs to outrageous slurs, I’m told I’m suffering from a sense of humour failure if I dare to answer back. Recently she’s taken to posting ‘hilarious’ old photographs of me as a teen looking spotty and scrawny on various WhatsApp groups. I accept that I wasn’t a cool kid, but she seems to get off on mocking me. Her edgy banter might have been funny once but, today, I’m a successful woman in a solid relationship and I’m sick of being insulted. What’s to be done? JANE SAYS: Your vicious ‘friend’ clearly views you as an easy target for her frustrations and jealousy. Speak to her privately because she needs to hear that circumstances have changed and that you will not be picked on. There’s a time and a place for everything and we all need to be mindful of the feelings and fragility of others. She may feel she’s being hilariously edgy, but you are not her straight woman and it’s wrong of her to exploit your shared history with her cheap shots. Make it clear that you will not be bullied. I’ve just received an email from my sister-in-law. She has set up a family rota for visiting her parents – my husband’s mum and dad. I’ve got all the worst slots. I’m down for weekends and bank holidays. This is rich considering they hate me. How dare she embarrass me in this way? JANE SAYS: Clearly your sister-in-law is attempting to pull a fast one. She’s hoping you’ll roll over without a fuss, but why should you? What about fairness and respect? Don’t allow anyone to push you around. Insist on a family meeting and start again. Your husband should be backing you. What is he doing to support his parents and why does he allow them to be rude to you? Stand up for yourself.
