By By Abigail Van Buren

Copyright berkshireeagle

DEAR ABBY: I want to end a relationship. My husband and I met a couple through mutual friends about three years ago. We are 20 years older than they are and live an hour away. When the mutual friends moved away, we thought that would be the end of it, but this couple pursued a friendship and guilted us into making the long journey to “hang” with them, stating that we were their only friends. Then we learned that they were having a child in their 40s. They now have two children.

I have raised my children, and I’m no longer interested in being around toddlers. Between the distance and the unenjoyable company, I want to end it. I think ghosting them would be tacky, and I want to tell them honestly (and gently) that we no longer want to visit. My husband disagrees. He thinks we should continue the charade to our immense displeasure. Advice? — SOUTHERN DISCONNECTION

DEAR DISCONNECTION: I disagree with your husband. The problem with playing charades is that not all the players are able to decode the pantomime. Save yourself a world of frustration (in addition to the money you are spending on fuel) and tell the couple that it’s time for them to make friends with other parents of young children in their community. Explain that you have raised a family, and the trip is onerous for you, which is why you are calling a halt to it.

If you are their only friends as they have stated, it is important that they cultivate relationships with other parents, if only so their children can form relationships with other children.