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They say, ‘A happy wife is the key to a happy life,’ and this advice might just be true. Relationship counsellor and author Ajay K Pandey shared his honest advice on what he believes are the key factors that lead to a happy and long-lasting marriage in an Instagram post. Ajay, who holds a PhD in counselling psychology, helps people navigate tough situations in life. He provides them with tools and insights that can encourage people to lead a happier and more fulfilling life. According to Hindustan Times, Pandey shared a post titled ‘Don’t live with your parents for the first 5 years of marriage’. This might sound controversial, but the counsellor went on to share seven reasons why couples should listen to his advice for a harmonious marriage. He captioned his Instagram post: “Always give priority to your wife.” View this post on Instagram A post shared by Ajay K Pandey | Relationship Counsellor & Author (@author_ajaykpandey) Prioritising Spouse It is important to prioritise your spouse. He mentions that one should take care of their spouse’s wants and desires to ensure a healthy relationship dynamic. He mentions that one should worry about pleasing the spouse instead of pleasing the family. Cultivating Confidence Correction kills confidence. Instead of advising the spouse to do things a certain way, one should appreciate her and always try to boost her confidence. He emphasises on creating a safe and healthy environment for the spouse. Romance above Rituals Pandey mentions that rituals and duties should take a backseat, and romance should be the centre of marriage. He says that instead of focusing on daily routines and responsibilities, couples should try keeping romance alive in the marriage to foster a better connection between them. Freedom of Choice Pandey writes that “Freedom turns into permission.’ Women are often expected to change their routine and lifestyle after marriage and adhere to the rules and responsibilities. He says that partners should not judge each other, and they should be allowed to make their own choices. Private Time Fosters Intimacy Pandey highlights the importance of spending some private time with your spouse to increase intimacy. “When doors close, hearts open. She leans on his shoulder – no fear, no judgment. In silence, love speaks the loudest,” writes Pandey. Individual Space Pandey emphasised the importance of giving personal space to one another in a marriage. He says that a healthy personal space can eliminate suffocation and foster a better relationship dynamic. Living Independently Pandey mentions in his last slide that living independently (even for a short time) is necessary for cultivating a sense of understanding among couples post-marriage. “Living alone builds connection. ‘Let’s skip dinner, order pizza?’ They laugh over crumbs on the bed — no rules, just us”, writes Ajay.
