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We all go through waves of feeling happy and positive and then other times more low about life. A psychologist has opened up about how you can "trick" your brain into feeing less negative with a few simple tricks which she swears really work. The mental health expert says it took her 10 years to learn the trick. Millie, who is known as The Pocket Psychologist online, and gives "pocket-sized pep talks for big feelings". She shared your brain does not believe what it is true, but rather what you repeat. She said: "What's familiar is what you repeat. Your thoughts shape your feelings. Your feelings drive your actions and your actions shape your identity. This is how your brain wires who you think you are." She said there is a "magic" to helping change your bad thoughts - and notes if you say something often enough, with emotion, then your brain rewires for it. Millie said: "Your brain is changeable. That's why self-talk isn't harmless. It's powerful. Like casting a spell your brain and body overhear." The expert insists this is essential for life; the way you speak to yourself becomes the way you feel about yourself. "Your life will always reflect who you believe you are," she added. She insists you don't have to believe all your thoughts, treat them like a visitor only. Millie noted that while you cannot think your way out of a feeling, you can feel your way into a new way of thinking. The psychologist said: "Your brain doesn't even know the difference between real and imagined. So visualising the calm, confident, capable version of you? That's not fluff. That's neuroscience." Explaining the method further, Millie commented: "You can't think your way out of a feeling but you can feel your way into a new way of thinking, because when emotions stay stuck, your nervous system keeps the score. And most of your behaviour? Isn't conscious. It's patterned." Millie concluded if you change the input and you alter the outcome. "Save this for the days your thoughts get loud and share it with someone who needs the reminder," she noted. People have been wowed by the advice. One individual said: "Wonderful observational insight... you are changing the rhetoric." Another added: "We forget our powerful out brains are and that we can CHANGE how we think. Love this." One other wrote: "Thank you so much! I've noticed since seeing this I've been feeling a lot better. I'm not as tired and I've been more motivated. Thanks a lot." Another individual shared: "I have taught my son (a very self-critical talker) that his mind is a garden, and the negative thoughts are weeds. Too many negative thoughts and they choke out the flowers. We talk about planting nice thoughts, and watering his nice thoughts - not giving water or energy to his weeds. It's such a great visualisation for him and myself too." A third said: "Same reason to avoid negative people saying you are bad. Get away and praise yourselves."
