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She became a breakout star on Aussie Shore, but Lily Jade says fame has made dating harder than ever. According to Lily Jade, she’s done trying to make committed relationships work for her for the time being. Lily explained why she feels freedom and casual sex are the way to go with her life right now, and how she successfully manages her roster of men that she’s seeing. Says Lily, “men are too insecure to date me after seeing me have sex on TV.” Guys say, ‘Oh, you’ve had sex on camera – isn’t it gross knowing people can see you?’ But I’m literally doing what everyone else does in their normal life…just not in a bedroom with the door closed. I don’t understand what the issue is.” Lily is grateful for the loyal following that she’s built during her time on Aussie Shore, and credits that following with helping her launch her successful OnlyFans career. However, she says that public recognition for her work has come with some drawbacks. “Before the show, I had no issues going on dates and meeting people,” says Lily. “Being on TV is a blessing, but a curse. Yes, it gets you where you need to be, gives you opportunities, and you make money from it, but it’s literally the biggest curse ever, because you sacrifice your normal life.” Lily’s rise to fame on Aussie Shore hasn’t been all smooth sailing. She’s been bullied relentlessly, and is frequently labelled a ‘slut’ online. The bullying and less than kind labels are why she turned to OnlyFans in order to reclaim her narrative. “I obviously know it’s not normal and that TV is a whole different world. But having sex on camera has become normal for me. I don’t see the difference,” says Lily. “I got shamed for doing something everyone does. So I thought, fine, if people are going to sexualise me anyway, I might as well do it on my own terms.” According to Lily, she still frequently gets asked out by men, but as soon as they see her in public, their insecurities take over. Says Lily, “I just find them insecure, because a real man wouldn’t actually care. There’s so many men out there who date OnlyFans girls and porn stars, and there’s no issue. My life isn’t going to change, unfortunately. That show’s out forever. So they’re just gonna have to deal with it, or they’re gonna have to leave. That’s what I say to people”. When you’re a publicly recognized figure, your reputation goes before you. For Lily, that’s made finding genuine connections a monumental task. “People think they know me from TV, but that’s just one version of me. It’s almost a form of acting. Of course I act crazy when there’s a camera on me – that’s what makes good TV. In real life, I’m not like that,” says Lily. “When people see me out, I can’t even explain or prove who I am as a person, because they already have an idea of me in their head.” Since her time on Aussie Shore, Lily has come to value causal relationships more than she used to. Says Lily, “I love casual relationships. I literally get to have sex, but I also have freedom at the same time. I’ll be honest, I feel like I’m too busy for a relationship anyway. It might be a bit selfish but I like having someone there, but knowing I can still do my own thing”. Lily Jade’s known for her unapologetic attitude, and she applies that same attitude towards dating. She even shares how she successfully maintains her roster of men she’s seeing. “If I’m seeing four guys or under, it’s easy to manage. I always make sure they’re not friends. I make sure they’re completely separate from each other. It seems to work, but yeah, I usually do like having a roster in summertime.” says Lily. “Usually for me, a roster is like, three, four people. I know some of my friends, they have over six or seven. They’re more of an everyday type of person. In comparison, I’m pretty lazy.” she shared. Being a successful OnlyFans creator is a full-time job, so Lily doesn’t have time to mess around when it comes to making sure her lovers know her boundaries. Says Lily, “if you want to have a successful casual relationship, you need to be clear with your expectations. If they haven’t said anything to indicate that you’re the only one, then take it at face value.I used to make it up in my head and be like, ‘Oh my God. They had sex with me. They only want me’. But that’s not real life, unfortunately. If it was a perfect world, everyone would be in a relationship right now, but it’s not.” Lily even said that one of the men she’s been seeing had a moment when he was “freaking out,” thinking things were getting a little too serious. “I never said I was looking for a relationship. I figure if it turns into a relationship, that’s what happens, but I’m not going to sit here and stomp and say I want one,” says Lily. “Now, we have regular conversations and if one of us is feeling a certain way or a bit off, we’re going to check in and just ask, ‘hey, how are you feeling now, do you have more feelings?’ things like that.” In order to make sure that everyone is on the same page, Lily is upfront and blunt about her boundaries surrounding what constitutes a committed relationship. “For me, a relationship involves friends and family. When you’re in a relationship, you get invited to all the birthdays or events and stuff. Like, no, that’s not happening if we’re casual.” she explained. “Just come over late at night, and then leave after, like, get out of my house. Or if you want to stay over, you just gotta leave in the morning. Most of the time I’ll go to their house. I don’t stay longer than 24 hours. That’s when it gets dangerous,” says Lily. Lily Jade may have found finding a committed relationship to be too tricky for this phase of her life, but she’s not letting that stop her from setting a strong example of what it means to set and maintain boundaries that work for her.
