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Social Media There’s a new word circulating on TikTok and Instagram, “throning,” which describes a relationship many find familiar and quietly corrosive, dating someone primarily to elevate your own social status. The practice, shorthand for putting a partner “on a throne” so their followers, clout, or connections rub off on you, has become a flashpoint in conversations about how social media reshapes desire, identity, and intimacy. What is throning?“Throning” refers to pursuing or publicizing a romantic partnership mainly for the status it confers rather than for emotional connection. Think less “gold-digging” for cash and more “gold-digging” for followers, invites, brand relevance, and the optics of an enviable life. Often subtle and sometimes unconscious, experts say the behavior is fueled by platforms that make social proof, likes, tags, and photographed attendance at the right events, into a visible currency. Videos and threads calling attention to people who seem to change their behavior depending on whether they’re alone or in public with you, cultivating an Instagram-ready relationship but withholding emotional labour, have helped the trend go viral. Why now? The social-media multiplierDating up for status is hardly new; sociologists have long studied “hypergamy,” partnering upward in socioeconomic or cultural capital, and psychologists have documented how people seek partners who enhance their lives. Live EventsWhat’s different today, therapists and dating coaches say, is that social media amplifies and packages status within a few visible metrics: follower counts, curated weekend photos, tagged appearances and public endorsements. In other words, your partner can enhance your personal brand as much as your social life."People are curating relationships the same way they curate content," says Amy Chan, a dating coach and the author of "Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts” on USA Today website. "The rise of throning also reflects a growing focus on self-image and external validation. Social media has amplified this, training us to care more about how our relationships look than how they actually feel."Who’s doing itMedia coverage and viral TikToks have flagged throning mostly among younger daters, Gen Z, and younger millennials who grew up with social platforms. Outlets reporting on the trend describe scenarios where people accept inconsistent care, vague long-term plans, or transactional public displays because the relationship provides visibility, a coveted plus-one, access to influencer circles, or curated content for one’s own feed. While the phenomenon is getting named and discussed widely, hard empirical measures of how often it occurs remain scarce. Chan explains that what makes throning distinct from earlier ideas of “dating up” is the powerful influence of social media."The idea of dating up isn’t new," Chan says. "People have always sought partners who could elevate their lifestyle or status. What’s different now is how much we care about how things look online. We live in the age of optics. Social media has turned love into a public performance, where your partner can enhance not just your life but your personal brand."What to do if you suspect you’re being throned, or doing the throningDating professionals offer practical steps:• Ask direct questions. If someone’s behavior shifts between private and public, bring it up calmly. Emotional safety requires honesty.• Look for patterns, not just posts. A polished feed doesn’t guarantee stability; repeated inconsistency in plans, affection or accountability is more revealing. • Reflect on motivations. If boosting followers, access or status is a primary reason you’re pursuing someone, be honest with yourself about whether the relationship would survive without that benefit.Add as a Reliable and Trusted News Source Add Now! (You can now subscribe to our Economic Times WhatsApp channel) Read More News onThroningSocial MediaDating TrendRelationship StatusDating CoachPersonal BrandInfluencer CirclesGen Zvideostiktoks (Catch all the US News, UK News, Canada News, International Breaking News Events, and Latest News Updates on The Economic Times.) Download The Economic Times News App to get Daily International News Updates....moreless (You can now subscribe to our Economic Times WhatsApp channel)Read More News onThroningSocial MediaDating TrendRelationship StatusDating CoachPersonal BrandInfluencer CirclesGen Zvideostiktoks(Catch all the US News, UK News, Canada News, International Breaking News Events, and Latest News Updates on The Economic Times.) Download The Economic Times News App to get Daily International News Updates....moreless Explore More Stories123
