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How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, I love when my partner climaxes, but when he does, something really annoying happens—and I have to spend literal days dealing with the repercussions. When we have sex, I end up “dripping” cum for 24-36 hours after. I wish I was kidding. I always use the bathroom immediately after and sit for a bit to let it fall out, and of course a shower the next morning. However, for at least the next full day I’m constantly feeling it drip out into my undies or when I go to pee I end up wiping a big amount of it out. What the heck is happening here? Is it hyperspermia? I have not had this experience prior and it’s driving me nuts (get it?). Any insight? —Too Many Swimmers Dear Too Many Swimmers, It is indeed possible that you’re still dripping more than a day after sex. A survey of 1,000 women whose results were published in World Journal of Gynecology & Women’s Health in 2021 found that seven percent of respondents reported experiencing seepage the following day after intercourse. Common methods to ameliorate the dripping and its attendant discomfort included showering, washing, urinating, or using a towel and wiping. The study’s conclusion called these methods “not adequate,” and offered a prescription: “Consumer health products are needed to address this issue and to empower women to lower their risk of discomfort and odor after sexual intercourse.” Many people have gone through what you seem to be going through with little beyond dabbing as an available aid. There is a product you may want to try called the Dripstick, an insertable sponge, that is specifically made to absorb excess semen after vaginal sex. But what’s coming out might not in fact be sperm. What you’re experiencing could also be discharge—you should see a doctor (a gynecologist may be best) just to rule out any underlying health issues. On another note, I do find it slightly odd that you think your boyfriend has hyperspermia. How do you not know this? It tends to make itself known. Clinically, hyperspermia refers to a tendency to ejaculate more than 6 milliliters or about 1.20 teaspoons in a load (versus the typical volume of 1.5 to 5 milliliters per ejaculation). Have you never seen him ejaculate? Have you never discussed his load size with him? Either/or could be useful in helping uncover what really shouldn’t be a mystery. And while internal ejaculation can be extremely appealing, it is absolutely not the only way. He could use a condom. He could pull out before he comes (shooting externally could shed light on his load size). If something changeable isn’t serving you, change it. Or if you love having your donut filled so much that it’s worth being driven nuts over later, find peace with the decisions you’re making. Life isn’t perfect, but hey, at least you’re getting laid regularly.
