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Living with parents after marriage isn’t always easy. For one man from Delhi, this arrangement has now turned into a source of conflict between his wife and his parents. He shared his situation on Reddit in the hope for advice on what to do next. The man, in a post titled, “Should we live away from my parents?” explained that while his parents are not unkind, things have changed a lot since his marriage. His post described how small disagreements have grown into frequent tension at home, especially between his mother and wife. A Husband Caught Between His Parents And Wife The man wrote that he got married five years ago and that his wife works as a teacher. “I got married almost five years ago. My wife is a teacher. So, my problem is, ever since I got married, the behaviour of my parents has changed drastically from before,” he wrote. He explained that his mother follows strict dietary and religious rules, which include avoiding onions and garlic in the house. Although he and his wife try to respect these rules, the topic often leads to arguments. “My mom is excessively strict at times about our diets. She doesn’t allow onions or garlic in the house, and we comply. We mostly avoid it too, except when we travel outside Delhi,” the Redditor shared. The issue escalated when his wife went to her parents’ house for Bhai Dooj on October 23. According to him, his mother was upset that his in-laws had not called her first or invited him. “I had already told her parents that I have an office and won’t be able to come. Anyhow, she claims that we must observe these formalities,” he added. Due to these frequent arguments, his wife now wishes to live separately. “She wants out (no, she doesn’t want a divorce or something, just wants her own place). I support her and have told her that I’m looking for our own place to buy,” he explained. Despite the ongoing tension, the man said his mother is “not a bad person.” “She takes care of our kids but is very strict and religious. My wife is sweet but a bit lazy about household work at times,” he wrote. He said he worries about his parents’ health and emotional well-being if they move out. See The Post Here Should we live away from my parents? byu/AdSignificant8976 indelhi Internet Reacts To Man’s Dilemma The post gathered a large number of comments from people who related to the situation. Many users urged the man to prioritise his marriage and create a separate space for his wife and child. One user commented, “Why do we Indians keep living with our parents anyway after marriage? Especially one gender. This is weird. Both should leave home and make a private life of their own. Your wife deserves better.” Another wrote, “Believe it or not, but after marriage, your parents, siblings, etc. become your extended family and your wife and kids should be your first priority.” “The fact that you acknowledge the bias and deteriorating behaviour towards your wife brought tears to my eyes. I’m not against living or separating from parents — but if a woman leaves her parents and then chooses to get married, why can’t a man leave his parents and settle somewhere near? Aren’t the girl’s parents going to get old — are they on some jadibooti to live forever or what?” someone asked. An individual said, “Apni mom ko samjhao ki jamana badal gaya hai (Explain to your mom that times have changed).” “A woman can be an amazing mother while also being an absolute b**** of a mother-in-law. The acceptance of this truth can save multiple marriages if timely action is taken,” read another comment.
