DEAR ABBY: I have a longtime friend, “Laurie,” who is single. Most of the relationships she gets into are with men who are in relationships already. She often suggests that my husband and I and she get together to hang out, but I discourage it because I don’t trust her completely. (I do trust my husband.)
Laurie and I have been there for each other during difficult times, but I struggle a lot with the fact that she has relationships with married men or men who are in other committed relationships. I have been tempted to tell the partners of these men, but I stay in my lane and mind my own business. It eats away at me sometimes, and I feel like I need to end the friendship. Then I feel like friends should be there through thick and thin. Can you give me some guidance? — UNEASY IN THE EAST
DEAR UNEASY: Your friend Laurie has boundary problems when it comes to men, which she has shown you repeatedly. Because you are not comfortable with the idea of you, your husband and Laurie socializing together, listen to your intuition and refrain from arranging it. Because you disapprove of her lifestyle to the extent that you are thinking of ending the relationship you have with her, tell her how you feel. She needs to hear it.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.