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FOR RELEASE: WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 29, 2025 DEAR ABBY: I met this guy at work and fell in love. We started going out, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. We moved in together pretty quickly, and I got pregnant. Three months later, I saw a text on his phone from a female co-worker. The first message said, "This is 'Brianne'" and the second was work-related. Everyone in the facility had to have his phone number, as his position required him to be called during the day. I know from others who worked there that Brianne had a crush on him. He deleted the first message that identified who it was from, but not the second one that was work-related. When I asked whose number it was, he lied and said he didn't know. It led to a big argument, and he told me he lied because he didn't want us to fight. Eventually, we moved on to different jobs outside the company and got married. We have had no more issues in our relationship since then. It has been years, but I have never been able to completely trust him. I have tried to forget this but because of it, my trust in him is gone. Am I wrong for that? — CAN'T FORGET IN FLORIDA DEAR CAN'T FORGET: I understand why you feel the way you do. Your boyfriend (now husband) shouldn't have lied to you. However, you state that your marriage has been on an even keel since your baby was born. If you want a happier marriage, start talking about this with a licensed counselor and ask what it will take for you to regain your trust in your spouse. People who focus on looking backward instead of the path ahead have been known to trip themselves up. DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for five years. Two years ago, we got engaged but — for many reasons — broke things off a month before the wedding. A few months later, we started talking again and have since built a stronger relationship. Our love is probably a hundred times stronger now, and we are again talking about marriage. The problem is that we live two hours apart. Due to our careers, we see each other only about once a month. We tried counseling, but it was difficult to find a time that worked for both of us.
