Copyright Staten Island Advance
DEAR ABBY: I do everything for my family. I take care of everyone. I also work and earn a good living. Now that I’m older and my kids are grown, I like to go on vacation. The problem is, my husband doesn’t want to do anything. My best friend booked a trip for the two of us, and I’m excited to go and enjoy a few days off from “my life,” so to speak, but my husband is mad because he isn’t invited. I have taken a vacation without him to see our grandson across the country, and it has never been an issue. We have been together 38 years. For the last two years, my husband has been sick, but he’s doing much better now. I feel like I deserve a break and a mental reset. He says he is “hurt.” He is trying to guilt me into not going, but I told him I need this for my own sanity. Am I wrong for wanting and needing this? —Escaping in South Carolina Dear Escaping, Taking care of a sick husband in addition to everyone else is stressful. I’m glad your husband is doing better, and I understand why you might want a break. You stated that he “doesn’t want to do anything” but feels hurt that he wasn’t included. Tell him if his urge to travel has revived along with his health, you would be delighted to arrange a trip for just the two of you. You can afford it, and it may soothe his feelings. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
