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Could one of these apps or dating sites help you find the one? (Credits: Getty Images) Looking for love, lust, or something in between? Whether you’re newly out, fully seasoned, or just queer and curious, the dating app world truly has something for everyone these days. From sapphic slow burns to spicy throuples, there’s no shortage of great queer dating sites out there. Queer dating has come a long way from the days of coded ads and discreet meet-ups. Now, with more inclusive apps and smarter matchmaking, finding your person (or people) is easier than ever. We’ve tested and rated the best gay and bisexual dating apps of 2025, so you can skip the small talk and get straight to the good part. From fan favourites like Tinder and eHarmony to niche gems like HER and Feeld, there’s something here for every kind of connection. Are you ready to find the best dating app? (Picture: Metro/Fleurine Tideman) I tested eight different dating apps to find the ultimate winner, and trust me, it was quite the ride. Along the way, I discovered the best options for non-conformist relationships, serious daters, and the simply curious. I also managed to snag a few IRL dates along the way. So, charge your phone and get ready to swipe your way to something special. How we rated the best dating apps – and why trust us? At Metro, we don’t just skim the surface; we get hands-on with every dating app we review. That means creating real profiles, filling out all the prompts, and seeing who (and what) actually shows up in your inbox. From messaging features and match quality to what’s behind those tempting premium fees, we test the full experience so you don’t have to waste any time when searching for your perfect match. As a seasoned dating and relationships writer, Fleurine has had her fair share of bad dates—and a couple of good ones along the way. She’s done stints on all of the dating apps “in the name of research” and reported her findings and relationship observations for Glamour, Stylist, Betches, Dazed, Metro and HuffPost. The best gay and bisexual dating apps – quick list 1. The best gay and bisexual dating app/site overall: Taimi 2. The best gay and bisexual dating app/site for casual dating: Tinder 3. The best gay and bisexual dating app/site for men: Grindr 4. The best gay and bisexual dating app/site for beginners: Match 5. The best gay and bisexual dating app/site for non-conformist relationships: Feeld 6. The best gay and bisexual dating app/site for bisexuals: BiCupid 7. The best gay and bisexual dating app/site for sapphics: HER 8. The best gay and bisexual dating app/site for serious daters: eHarmony Comparison Table: The 8 Best Dating Sites We Tested The best gay and bisexual dating apps and sites reviewed by us Best gay and bisexual dating app/site overall: Taimi (Picture: Metro/Fleurine Tideman) Tested by: Fleurine Tideman Rating: 5/5 Price: Free version, then £4.99 for a weekly Bronze trial, £6.99 for a weekly Silver subscription, and £14.99 for a weekly Gold subscription.Paid subscription options: Send likes without blur, see who liked you, discover compatible profiles, and more. Number of users globally: 29 million. Age range: 18 and above, with no age limit. Inclusivity: Welcoming to non-binary, gender fluid, and transgender individuals as well as the rest of the queer community. Taimi isn’t just another dating app, it’s a celebration of the entire LGBTQ+ spectrum, from lesbian, gay, bi, trans, and queer to all the identities in between. With millions of users worldwide, it’s a space where every identity, attraction, and kind of relationship is welcome. Because love isn’t one-size-fits-all, so why should finding it be? Unlike other apps that just match you with people, Taimi lets you post stories and fully customise your feed. Think Instagram meets Hinge, but with a queer-friendly twist. Privacy is a big deal here. You can control exactly who sees your photos and videos, a must-have for the queer community. Plus, their AI Finder tool matches you with genuinely compatible people, not just based on your listed preferences but also your in-app behaviour. Translation: no more mismatched oversharers and ghosting one-a-weekers. Then there’s Taimi Explore, which opens up the world as your dating playground. Whether you’re jet-setting with a new love or hunting for a cute redhead to grab drinks in Paris, the app works for casual hookups, new friendships, or even something long-term. Best gay and bisexual dating app/site for casual dating: Tinder Tinder gets a 3/5 from our reviewer. Tested by: Fleurine Tideman Rating: 3/5 Price: Free and upgrade versions are available. Premium subscriptions cost between £1.92 and £14.32 a month.Paid subscription options: Tinder Plus, Gold, and Platinum come with a bunch of perks that can actually make a difference in your dating life, like unlimited likes, rewind, boosts, priority likes and more. Number of users globally: Over 75 million users. Age range: Minimum age of 18, no maximum age. They’ve found most users to be between 18 and 34 years old. Inclusivity: Tinder provides over 50 gender identities and 9 sexual orientations, and allows users to update these at any time. Option to add your pronouns to your bio. One of Tinder’s biggest perks? Its massive user base. This was the app that kicked off the whole swiping craze, and yes, it got us all mindlessly flicking left and right. These days, it’s often pegged as a hotspot for casual dating—read: situationships—but that’s not the whole picture. I’ve met plenty of people on Tinder looking for something more serious, and some of those encounters even turned into second, third, and yes, fourth dates. For queer daters, Tinder has all the inclusive options to make your experience smoother. But the real standout for me? Tinder’s new Double Date feature. You can team up with your bestie for a date, and there are no restrictions on your gender or your crush’s. As a bisexual woman, I could go on a date with my gay male friend, and we’d each be paired with someone perfectly compatible—him with a guy, me with someone of any gender. Total chaos? Maybe. Totally fun? Absolutely. The app keeps things classic with its swipe-through format, though profiles are a bit lighter on detail compared to some other apps. That said, Tinder is slowly adding more prompts, taking a page from Hinge, so your bio game might just get stronger. Best gay and bisexual dating app/site for men: Grindr Grindr also gets an average 3/5 from our reviewers. Tested by: Fleurine Tideman and a friend Rating: 3/5 Price: Free option, Grindr XTRA for £17.49 per month, or Grindr Unlimited for £34.99 per monthPaid subscription options: Grindr XTRA: Ad-free experience, ability to view up to 600 profiles, saved chat phrases, read receipts, 5 expiring photos per day, premium Album features and Grindr Web access. Grindr Unlimited has this, incognito mode, chat translations, and the much-needed ability to unsend messages. Number of users globally: 13.5 million monthly active users. Age range: 18 and over. Interestingly, it’s extremely popular with men over fifty in the UK. Inclusivity: Gender identity options, preferred pronouns and transgender-inclusive features. Additionally, Grindr for Equality partners with organisations to promote LGBTQ+ rights and health initiatives globally First things first: Grindr isn’t just for men seeking men—who knew? The app bills itself as the world’s largest social network for gay, bi, trans, and queer people. That said, the pool of queer women on there is… let’s just say, shallow. The photo quality felt a bit 2012, and most profiles didn’t give much away beyond a face and maybe an emoji. As a bisexual woman, I also couldn’t match with men interested in women, which felt pretty limiting. Since I’m clearly not Grindr’s core demographic—despite its claims of inclusivity—I enlisted a gay male friend to help give the app a proper once-over. His experience was night and day compared to mine. For him, Grindr offered an endless pool of options, and he’s been on it for years. That said, even he admits it’s not exactly built for long-term love. Now in his thirties, he’s using Hinge alongside Grindr, saying the latter is still great for casual connections but doesn’t exactly pave the way to a serious relationship. “It’s all about looks,” he told me, “and the conversation turns sexual within about 30 seconds.” So, if you’re after something fun and fast-paced, Grindr still reigns supreme, but if you’re hunting for The One, you might want to keep scrolling. We both also found the proximity feature a bit… intense. It can feel a little too revealing, showing people exactly where you are (or close enough) in your neighbourhood. Great for spontaneity, not so great for privacy. Best gay and bisexual dating app/site for beginners: Match Match.com got a healthy 4/5 from our reviewer. Tested by: Fleurine Tideman Rating: 4/5 Price: Starts from £9.99 per month, with discounts for longer commitments.Paid subscription options: With a paid subscription, you gain the ability to send and receive unlimited messages, priority registration for IRL events, boost your profile, and more. Number of users globally: Over 2.5 million successful connections in the UK alone, and 15 million globally. Age range: 18 and above, although the demographic tends to skew older. I’d recommend it for gay and bisexual daters in their thirties and onwards. Inclusivity: Over two dozen gender options, and the ability to select interest in multiple as well. Let’s turn our attention to one of the UK’s biggest dating sites and see how it stacks up for the queer community. Match is interesting because it blends elements of both Tinder and eHarmony. You’re shown one profile at a time and can swipe or skip. But unlike those apps, Match actually gives you plenty of info upfront, like interests, hobbies, and lifestyle details. Profiles are highly customisable, letting you showcase photos, topics, and your quirks to attract the right people. I loved the personalised recommendations based on my preferences and must-haves—though, full disclosure, I’m not sure I should date another Swiftie! Match is great for people after long-term relationships, but it does have its quirks. The interface feels outdated, the website can be slow, and filtering options don’t always deliver. Some users report encounters with fake profiles and scams — though I didn’t experience that myself. I did spot a few familiar faces from Hinge and Bumble, which made me feel like I was paying to meet people I could’ve found elsewhere for free. Thanks to its popularity, I had no shortage of matches, which was admittedly flattering. That said, many of the matches skewed older than my stated age range, so if you’re looking for someone in their twenties, this might not be the place. The user experience also left a bit to be desired—ads pop up frequently, and the layout can feel a little messy, which made browsing less enjoyable over time. Seeing who’s viewed your profile can be flattering, but it also means others see if you’ve checked theirs… and didn’t message. Cue the awkward follow-ups from users you weren’t interested in — not exactly the vibe you’re looking for. Read more in our full Match.com review Best gay and bisexual dating app/site for non-conformist relationships: Feeld Tested by: Fleurine Tideman Rating: 5/5 Price: Free Version or Majestic Membership for £24.99 (monthly), £42.99 (90 days), or £149.99 (annual). Paid subscription options: Majestic Membership allows you to use Incognito Mode, Pings, Uplift, Extended Search Filters, Profile Boost and more. Number of users globally: Over 2 million users worldwide Age range: Available to 18 and over. The majority of Feeld users are between 25 and 40 years old, with the average age being around 29. Inclusivity: Feeld is committed to inclusivity, supporting various identities and relationship styles, including Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM), Polyamory, Kink and BDSM, and LGBTQ+ Identities. It’s a real safe space. I’m a big fan of Feeld, and I’m always surprised it flies under the radar! First things first: this isn’t just a playground for wild, kinky, 50 Shades-style adventures — though if that’s your vibe, you’ll definitely find your crowd here. You can set sexual preferences and kinks to get exactly what you want, from threesomes (MMF, FFM, MMM, FFF, or any other jumble of letters!) to ethical non-monogamy and beyond. Speaking of ENM, couples can create linked profiles for full transparency, giving the option to date together or separately. That level of openness is rare in dating apps and a big part of Feeld’s charm. Even if you’re looking for queer monogamous connections, Feeld attracts a lot of open-minded people who enjoy a different kind of dating space. Profiles feel more authentic, with less pressure to be witty or post endless selfies. That said, photos are often fewer or more anonymous, as users value privacy. Conversations can also get sexual sooner than on other apps, so keep that in mind before diving in. Feeld also doesn’t use the same algorithm-style matching as other platforms, so it can take a while to find someone with similar intentions. Best gay and bisexual dating app/site for bisexuals: BiCupid This is what the BiCupid landing page will look like when you start selecting what you are after. (Picture: Metro/Fleurine Tideman) Tested by: Fleurine Tideman Rating: 4/5 Price: Free version or paid version for £32.99 for one month, £106.99 for six months, or £122.99 for a year. Paid subscription options: Premium membership includes features like viewing all photos, advanced search filters, and more. Number of users globally: Over 3 million members worldwide, according to the site. Age range: 18 and over, but most active users are in their mid-twenties to thirties. Inclusivity: BiCupid is explicitly targeted at the bisexual, bi-curious, and “curiosity around bisexual relationships” communities. You’ve probably heard of OkCupid, which is a decent space for queer daters. But as a bisexual woman, I had to check out BiCupid: a site dedicated to bisexual, bi-curious, and, well, anyone exploring in between. Don’t let the name fool you, though: it’s welcoming to lesbians, gay, trans, queer, and anyone still figuring things out. One of the first things I noticed was the app’s robust support for ethical non-monogamy. Couples can create linked profiles, and there are threesome options — though calling participants “unicorns” isn’t exactly popular with everyone. BiCupid also offers advanced filters, 10 different privacy settings, and even video chat features. Instead of swiping, BiCupid relies on an algorithm that matches users based on interests and personalities. In practice, it feels a little behind the times. The interface could use a refresh, and some of the matches left me wondering if the algorithm was more about who was paying for VIP than actual compatibility. Finally, the site is still growing, so the user base, especially in the UK, is a little limited. It’s worth exploring if you’re curious, but don’t expect the same buzz as Tinder or Taimi. Best gay and bisexual dating app/site for sapphics: HER Tested by: Fleurine Tideman Rating: 5/5 Price: Free version and premium for £13.99/month Paid subscription options: By upgrading to a paid version, you get unlimited swipes, an ad-free experience, advanced filters, the ability to see who views your profile, incognito mode, rewind opportunities, and more. Number of users globally: Over 13 million users worldwide. Age range: 18 and over. The majority of users are in their mid-20s to late 30s. Inclusivity: Designed specifically for queer women, non-binary, and trans people. It offers many gender & sexuality identity options. HER is renowned for its careful vetting system, designed to filter out catfishes and anyone not ready to treat others with respect. That said, there’s a big push to link your profile to social media accounts. You can still use the app without this, but some features feel a bit limited if you don’t verify that way, which isn’t ideal for anyone wanting to keep their dating life separate from their socials. HER also makes it easy to highlight your values through Pride Pins, so potential matches immediately know if you’re QPOC, T4T, chapstick or masc lesbians, intersex, and more. You can even showcase your love language, political views, and other personal details to make connections more meaningful. A standout feature is how effortlessly HER lets you adjust your gender identity. They even have an FAQ explaining how simple it is. This is a welcome relief compared with Bumble or Hinge, where people sometimes claim, “Set the wrong gender and they won’t let me change it!” Whether that’s true or not, HER handles it gracefully. Finally, HER is packed with educational content, perfect for anyone navigating the sapphic lifestyle for the first time. The app acknowledges that everyone discovers their identity at their own pace. Whether you’re in your twenties, thirties, forties, or beyond, it’s never too late to explore. Best gay and bisexual dating app/site for serious daters: eHarmony You can really express yourself on eHarmony. (Picture: Metro/Fleurine Tideman) Tested by: Fleurine Tideman Rating: 3/5 Price: Free version available, or Premium, with the price depending on the length of membership. For example, it’s £25.99/mo for a 6-month membership or £9.90/mo for a 24-month membership. Paid subscription options: Includes unlimited messaging, full photo access, enhanced search tools, and the ability to see who has viewed your profile. Number of users globally: Approximately 30 million. Age range: 18 and over, but popular across age demographics. Inclusivity: Three gender options (male, female, and non-binary) with the ability to select multiple genders as your dating preference. Interestingly, eHarmony has long had a bit of an “older crowd” reputation — and while love truly has no age limit, it’s now seeing a real rise among Gen Z and Millennials. I quickly found people around my age on the app (I’m a sprightly 28, in case you were wondering). The main appeal of eHarmony is its detailed matchmaking system. You start with a very thorough questionnaire that digs into your personality, values, and relationship preferences before showing you curated matches. You even get a little explainer for each one; things like “you both value emotional openness” or “you handle conflict similarly.” Honestly, the time and energy it takes to get through that quiz means you’re unlikely to bump into someone just looking for a one-night stand. Here’s the catch, though: in my eHarmony review, I gave them four out of five stars, but I’m dropping it down a notch here. While you can indicate interest in men, women, and non-binary users, I was matched almost exclusively with men. Whether that’s down to fewer queer users or just an overwhelming number of male profiles, it does make the experience less rewarding for LGBTQ+ daters, more of a small pond than a sea of options. Our verdict Most modern dating apps have come a long way in welcoming queer users, with plenty of gender and sexuality options to choose from. The real trick, though, is finding where your people actually are, because let’s face it, some platforms still feel like walking into a straight bar during happy hour. Overall, Taimi takes the top spot for its accessibility and community vibe across the entire LGBTQIA+ spectrum. HER is a standout for sapphic daters, while Feeld is perfect for those looking to connect with open-minded, adventurous types. Are dating apps only for straight people? Not at all! Most dating apps now let you choose who you want to match with, whether that’s the same gender, a different one, or both. You can easily adjust your settings to reflect what you’re looking for (or what you’re curious to explore). Dating apps have come a long way, and there’s plenty of space for every kind of connection. Is Grindr only for hookups? That’s certainly the reputation it’s built over the years and, to be fair, it’s not entirely undeserved. The lack of face photos and sparse profiles means most people aren’t exactly there to find “the one.” While there are some who use Grindr for genuine connections, it’s probably not your best bet for something serious. If you’re after a more meaningful match, try Taimi, eHarmony, or Match instead. Which dating sites are best for queer polyamory? If you’re curious about exploring ethical non-monogamy, Feeld is the go-to. You can link profiles with your partner and choose to date together, separately, or a bit of both. The app lets you be upfront about your intentions with tags, helping you find like-minded people without the small talk. Another great shout is BiCupid, which has become a favourite among those looking for open relationships or poly connections. It’s all about honesty, transparency, and meeting people who get it. 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