By Tina Koumarianos

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Hi Tina I really need some objective help. My husband left me for an older very high powered business woman and he has moved into her very beautiful apartment in the city centre.

I know it’s very beautiful because he’s shown me pictures of it, how cruel is that? It’s almost as if he’s boasting about how well he’s done without giving any consideration to me or his children.

He seems besotted with her lifestyle and not at all the man I was married to. He says he still loves me but his attraction to this woman stems not only from the fact that she is so well dressed and moves in all the right circles, but also because she is so driven like, as he said, I was before we married!

I met her once by accident before I realised they were having an affair. She was aloof and dismissive of me which I thought at the time was very rude but I put it down to the fact that she was a very busy career woman who looked down on a mere housewife surrounded by kids.

We appeared to be irritating her but of course I now realize that it was probably because she was sleeping with my husband and possibly felt uncomfortable in the situation…maybe I’m just being kind in thinking that, maybe she was just irritated by us.

My family and friends are trying to be helpful by suggesting I move on with my life, get over him, take him for every penny etc but I don’t want to do any of those things, I just want my husband back.

I miss him dreadfully and so do our three young children. How can I get him to see sense and come home?

Tina’s response:

This may not be as difficult as you think because he talks about attraction, but not love. He is used to seeing the children crawling all over you whereas his lady friend is sitting in her Ivory Tower surrounded by beautiful people and expensive things … positively untouched by anything unpleasant and certainly not sticky little fingers!

If you really want him back, tell him how much you love him and that should things not work out, you would love him to come home, you and the children miss him dreadfully.

Do remember, it is going to be very difficult not to hate him from time to time for what he’s put you through if he does eventually come home so you had better prepare yourself for that emotional roller coaster.

Continue by telling him that unfortunately the situation he has put you in necessitates you getting childcare, a job and a social life of your own and so, it will be necessary for the children to live with him and his lady friend in her apartment week on week off and no, he can’t stay in your house on those weeks because you might also have company staying over!

You don’t actually have to act on that but, there’s nothing like a bit of competition to get someone interested in someone or something they thought they no longer lusted after, he might just be one of those cheaters who wants it ALL!

You may find this older lady has stayed single not because she’s never met the right person but simply because she likes her own space and to be the boss.

School runs in the middle of the day, making them dinner when she’s trying to get ready for the theatre and endeavoring to get three of them to bed without tears, not to mention the toys…toys for three children, now that’s a lot of toys strewn around her beautiful sterile apartment.

Then there’s bound to be strange babysitters in her fabulous domain perusing her treasures … priceless! I know this is probably the last thing you want but believe me, it is worth the gamble for the look on his lady friend’s face when he tells her she is going to have rather a lot of company…on a very regular basis.

Little children are divine but a complete passion killer, most especially when they’re not your own!

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