By Divya Verma
Copyright inquisitr
Reddit is a community where people usually come together to help a stranger in a dire conundrum or people share the stories which they usually can not tell others.
There are posts where friends are left out or made to feel like a burden on friends. One such post recently touched the readers where a bridesmaid shared a story where she was asked to share a room with a couple, making her feel less than. Bride added that she felt humiliated, uncomfortable, and undervalued by the arrangement.
This all happened during a destination wedding. The bridesmaid shared that the to-be-wed couple was hosting the wedding at a rented villa, and the bookings were done for two nights. All the guests were told that the accommodation was covered.
However, it was the sleeping arrangements that raised eyebrows.
Along with the bridesmaid, who is single, there were a few other guests who were travelling along. The bridesmaid and one of the other guests were asked to share a room with a couple. This couple was just an acquaintance and the room could only house three people.
The original poster claimed that she had already spent a lot of money on the preparation of her wedding. She had bought wedding gifts, spent money on travel, and also took some time off, which could affect her pay too. So after investing so much money and time in this wedding, she felt disrespected and sidelined when she saw the sleeping arrangements.
Bridesmaid Is ‘Humiliated’ After Being Forced to Room with a Couple at Destination Wedding https://t.co/QIbZPwOUfb
— People (@people) September 17, 2025
She felt bad, especially since she is single. She felt that she was being singled out due to her relationship status, too.
“Honestly, just feeling less-than for being single,” she wrote on Reddit.
Even the bride admitted that the situation is not ideal and said that logistically it became tricky to arrange for so many rooms.
Many of the booked rooms were already housing three people and there were no other hotels available nearby. Still, the bridesmaid made a point that sharing a room with a couple whom she didn’t even know properly felt very uncomfortable. She didn’t get to talk to them before this arrangement and nobody told her about the sleeping situation until she reached the destination.
Many people on Reddit felt represented by this story, saying that many times single people are made to feel less important at weddings. This often happens with those who are a part of the wedding party.
People commenting agreed with the OP, saying that weddings are already expensive and emotionally charged events. Being a bridesmaid is not about supporting the bride, but nowadays comes with obligations of bachelorette, wedding gifts, travel, time off from work, etc.
And after all that, if one feels insulted at the wedding due to something like rooming, that stings.
Reddit users understood her situation and sympathized with the OP. Many commentators agreed with her that the rooming arrangement was inappropriate especially if she had not been informed earlier. Some advised her to talk to the bride and request a change. If a private room wasn’t possible, they suggested she at least be paired with someone she felt comfortable with.
A few people also suggested that she reconsider her place at the birthday party.
People were also concerned about the safety of the bridesmaid and pointed it out to her.
This post not only highlighted the importance of proper arrangements at the wedding but also showcased how important it is to have clear communications. In today’s time when weddings are already very expensive, in these situations, to put a bridal party on the spot is not only disrespectful, but also inconsiderate.
The bridesmaid’s dilemma is also a reminder for all hosts that the wedding day might be your day, but the responsibility of the guests, even of your bridal or groom’s party, is yours too.
Hopefully, this story inspires more couples to think carefully about how they arrange these intimate touches—not just for logistics, but for dignity.
