By Jessica Clark

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But even I know intimacy thrives in the quiet. The real stuff that makes love special is vulnerable, messy and categorically un-Instagrammable. It can’t be captioned or curated for all the world to see.Grandstanding, on the other hand, makes the relationship less about two people and more about the audience. It’s like putting on a play where you’re constantly checking if the crowd is clapping while forgetting that the moments that matter the most — the whispered confessions, the ugly-cry apologies and the “we’re in this together” pep talks — all happen offstage. Remember: if you spend too long playing to the audience, you risk losing the plot entirely.So what is the solution? Do we delete our boyfriends off the grid and go full witness protection until further notice? Not necessarily. Sharing a soft-launch story or a cute couples candid isn’t a curse. Perhaps the sweet spot is somewhere in between. Give people a little something and keep the rest between you and the person who actually matters. After all, the strongest couples I know aren’t always the ones screaming into the void of social media. They’re the ones quietly laughing together on the couch on a Wednesday night, phones down, thriving on the kind of love that doesn’t need a highlight reel. But if your boyfriend ever writes you a full paragraph on Instagram? It might be time to start packing.Feature image: Getty.Calling all Australians aged 18+! We want to know about your relationship with insurance products. Complete our survey now for a chance to win a $1,000 gift voucher in our quarterly draw! TAKE SURVEY ➤