By Daniella Gray

Copyright newsweek

A millennial mom to be has confessed why she walked out of her best friend’s baby welcoming party—after the friend revealed she had chosen the exact name the poster had planned for her unborn son.The 29-year-old, who posted under the throwaway account u/barrybarryco on the r/confession subreddit, explained she is four months pregnant with a baby boy and has long cherished the name “Yuen” for her future child. She explained her friends have known about this for years.”I always, and I mean always, wanted to give that name to my son if I had one,” the original poster (OP) wrote. “After a while, I even started seeing a little boy with that name in my dreams, it felt like destiny.”The name carried deep personal meaning for her, she said, tied to both her childhood in China and the fact her own birth name was changed when she was young.Her childhood friend, referred to as just “P” in the post, gave birth two weeks ago and invited her close circle to a baby welcoming and naming ceremony. But when the child’s name was revealed as Yuen, the expectant mom said she felt “heartbroken.”When confronted, P reportedly told her: “I know you must be thinking I am a bad friend but you have to understand. Ever since you told me about that, I really loved it and I could not let the opportunity go since you do not have a kid still.”The new mom went further, suggesting she “deserved the name more” because she became pregnant first. “You can name your son that… but you will be copying me,” she added.The OP left the party in tears, later promising, “Whatever happens, I will not change my son’s name.”The situation escalated after the event too. According to the OP, P and her mother accused her of “ruining” the party, sending texts filled with insults.At the time of writing, the post has received 2,400 upvotes and over 400 comments. Many Reddit users agreed that the OP should go ahead and name her son Yuen anyway.”If the name is super important to you and you birth a son, use it! No one with half a brain will bat an eyelid as there are many people with the same name. Your friendship may be over but you can still name your child the name you want. Who cares what others may or not think?” one user wrote.”It’s best for you to just block her and move on with your life. Name your kid Yuen. Like you said, if you aren’t friends anymore, less likely the two Yuens are gonna meet,” another added.A third user said, “Use the name. She’s not actually your friend, don’t waste a tear on her. Love that little boy, love your little family. She unveiled what she really thinks about you, including being nasty about you as a mother…leave her to it.”Others were shocked at how P acted, despite years of friendship. “To stand in front of someone and just say and do blatantly hurtful things with zero regard for the person’s feelings and desires says they were never actually friends,” one user commented.Veronica Lichtenstein, a licensed mental health counsellor believes that this isn’t just about a name, it’s a pattern of entitled and competitive behavior.”The core issue here is a complete lack of respect and communication,” Lichtenstein told Newsweek. “A simple, kind conversation before the party could’ve changed everything. For example, P could have said, ‘I know you love this name, and it’s also become special to me. How would you feel if we used it?’ A conversation like that would have given the writer a chance to process her feelings privately, not in front of a crowd.”Lichtenstein said the key to success in this situation is handling it with sensitivity and respect for each other’s feelings.She encouraged the OP to mute or block P for her own mental peace and lean on her own support system.”Your husband is rightfully upset with you—cherish that,” Lichtenstein said. “Don’t let this drama steal the excitement of your own pregnancy. You have every right to name your son Yuen. His name is his story, not a copy of anyone else’s.””In the end, this is a painful lesson in learning that some friendships have expiration dates,” Lichtenstein continued. “Letting go of this one will make space for healthier, more supportive relationships.”