15 Times Men Voluntarily Said Unhinged Things That Made Women Ghost Them For Good, And I’m Speechless
“A guy I had three dates with then told me if I wanted to keep seeing him, I had to do this.”
Note: Assault is mentioned below.
While it’s normal to say some weird things in the first couple of dates, sometimes someone says something so wild that it immediately makes you want to cut off all communication right then and there. So when we asked the BuzzFeed Community: “What have you found out about a partner/potential partner that immediately made you ghost?” people did NOT hold back. Here’s what they said below:
1. “Twice I had different first (and last) dates talk about their pee when they came back from the bathroom. Do you really think a woman wants to know the colour or the frequency? No.”
2. “A guy I had three dates with then told me if I wanted to keep seeing him I had to do some Muslim ceremony thing so that it was ‘permitted’ by his religion/culture and how because I wasn’t the same ethnicity/culture as him, when we’d get married his family would never know about me, about us being married, any kids we’d have, etc. I’d be kept as some shameful secret. I said ‘no’ so fast he couldn’t believe how I didn’t even take a moment to consider.”
—Blerp
3. “He chastised me, saying it came off as ‘lazy and immature’ for sleeping until 3 p.m. despite knowing that I WORKED NIGHTS. BRO, WHEN TF ELSE AM I SUPPOSED TO SLEEP??”
4. “My baby boomer parents told me to say yes to every date. One time, I went on this Tinder date at 32, and this egg-shaped man came in, and we slurped up noodles at a ramen place. He seemed genuinely nice and funny — just short and looked like a physical embodiment of an egg. I am 5’5, so I’m not tall. Anyway, he calls me after the date, saying he has a woman who sleeps in his bed and sometimes they have sex. I’m like, does she live there? And he’s like, ‘Yes.’ So I’m like, why the fuck are you on Tinder because it sounds like you have a live-in partner. Egg Boy had more game than me in every sense of the word.”
5. “One guy I was texting was telling me about a car that seemed like it was following him. It drove off, and he goes, ‘That was so weird. I’m used to being the apex predator!’ I said, ‘Now you know how women feel,’ and didn’t talk to him again.”
6. “I met up with a guy off an app. We made out, and a little more in my car afterwards. I googled him AFTER and found out he is a convicted felon for making terroristic threats against Black people when he was in college.”
—Suspicious Elephants
7. “I was dating a guy for a few weeks when I was 24. I mentioned to him that I’d adopted two kittens for my birthday. I lived with my mom at the time, and she already had a cat. He freaked out at me and told me I was ‘hoarding animals’ and that I ‘had a problem.’ I said hell no after that.”
8. “I met him through a dating app, and he seemed cool, but he turned up nearly an hour late for our first date, clearly stoned (eyes like road maps, really hyper) even though my dating profile said ‘No Drugs.’ Then, during the movie, which I really wanted to see even though we missed the start, he offered me drugs, which, if I’d taken, I could’ve lost my job. I walked out, blocked his sorry arse, and saw the movie on my own the next day.”
—Julie Rose
9. “This was one of MANY things that my ex did during our relationship: I wrote them a love poem and they responded with FEEDBACK and CRITIQUE of the poem.”
10. “I found out he lied about his name and age. He was also on the sex offenders list and had recently gotten out of jail! He lost his shit when I broke up with him, and I ghosted him with a 2-year restraining order for stalking and harassing me.”
—shawnb10
11. “‘Well, if you don’t count the Holocaust, Hitler wasn’t that bad for …’ NOPE.”
12. “I met a guy through a mutual acquaintance, and the mutual acquaintance told him I thought he was cute. He started messaging me on Facebook, so we chatted a bit, and it got a little flirty. Somehow, we ended up joking, and he basically dared me to go ahead and Google search him. Turns out he was arrested for assaulting his (ex)wife. So I told him his police report came up in the search; no judgment or shade, just told him that fact. He then proceeded to freak out at me. He said he was innocent, and then he accused me of a lot of harsh things. I said, ‘Dude, I would have at least listened to your side of the story, but instead your temper tantrum told me all I needed to hear.’ Then he blocked me! Haha, ok my guy, you’re SO not an abuser!!”
—zazupitz
13. “Several years ago, I dated a guy for a couple of months. He was funny and cool and smart (or so I thought). We were hanging out at my place one day, and he said something about the earth being only 2,000 years old. I realized he wasn’t joking and immediately asked him to leave. As I write this, it doesn’t seem like a big deal, but that comment, combined with other seemingly unrelated statements, made it click that he was weirdly religious, and I didn’t feel safe around him anymore. Also, he always smelled like he had just been near a campfire, and it bothered me.”
14. “I have moderate cerebral palsy: It causes severe pain, and until recently, I haven’t been able to get an opiate Rx. I know doctors are reticent to prescribe, but it’s the only type of drug that was helping my chronic spasms and bone pain. Anyways, I told a guy that I had a history of taking opiates, and I and the doctors weren’t seeing eye to eye. He went on a rant about how he agreed with the doctors, opiates were evil, and he was ‘built different’ with a special gene to never get addicted or feel the effects of opiates. I dropped him shortly after.”
—semmuell
15. And finally, “My most recent ex and I met on Hinge, and once we were having a discussion about dating apps in general. I mentioned how I had also tried using Bumble, to which he replied that he hated it. When I asked him why, he said it was because he thought it was a ‘stupid idea’ to let women make the ‘first move’ (i.e., send the first message). To some people, this may not seem like that big of a deal, and it was possible he could’ve been joking, but I started to realize a lot of what he had was sexist and misogynistic behaviours, and would often make comments like that. Long story short, our relationship did not last very long at all.”
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